Over the 40 years that I have had the privilege of teaching horsemanship, I find the number one obstacle that deprives riders of both progress and pleasure is fear. Fear of riding horses does not discriminate, nor does it have boundaries. Equestrians of all ages, levels, and disciplines can find themselves afflicted with fear.
Although fear can often develop after a mishap where the rider was injured or frightened, it may also develop without a specific cause or origin. No matter how it started, once fear is present, it seems to have a mind of its own. As it begins to grow and spread, fear can affect your ability to guide and direct your horse. You are the horse’s leader; if the leader is frightened then the horse will follow your lead. The very presence of fear will transfer through your body language to the horse, and the horse will react accordingly, creating a cycle that can be difficult to break.
Fear causes many horse lovers to give up on their passion for riding. It can leave you feeling incompetent and vulnerable. It takes away the joy you once found on horseback. Fear is often the reason horses are sold or become “pasture ornaments.”
Is there alternative to “putting up your boots”? Yes, you can overcome fear! Through my own personal experience, and in guiding my students, I have found overcoming fear to be entirely possible. I would like to offer a realistic approach to facing the fear that holds so many riders back. If you begin to understand how horses think, learn to read your horse’s body language, and increase your skill level as a rider, you can develop the confidence necessary to become a leader to your horse, and reverse the cycle of fear.
Understanding the equine mind
If you understand how a horse thinks, what instincts are necessary for his survival, and how a horse silently communicates through body language, it will begin to open the door to greater confidence and better communication. There are many books written on horses’ instincts, behavior, and language, but I must warn you that there are vast differences in interpretation of the horse’s mind among authors. I believe horses are always your best teachers, so studying how horses behave in a herd can tell you a great many things. Robert Vavra’s book Such Is the Real Nature of Horses is a wonderful study of horses in the wild. Of course, the photography is amazing, but Mr. Vavra has excellent insight to what he photographs. Mark Rashid has also written wonderful books. Two of my favorites are Horses Never Lie and Considering the Horse.
There are three of aspects of the horse’s mind that are always an influence in every reaction the horse has:
Knowing how the horse thinks helps us see the importance of leadership and correct guidance through your body language (aids). But how can you transform from “vulnerable passenger” to “fearless leader”? You’ve got to learn your horse’s language.
Understanding body language
Your horse is reading your body language, and it’s just as important to learn to read his. Understanding your horse’s silent communication will help you to read his awareness and reactions. I like to focus on four basic areas of body language:
It takes observation, constant awareness, and time to learn the subtleness of a horse’s body language. By understanding how your horse thinks and being careful not to humanize the situation, your reactions will be more appropriate and effective, and your confidence level will improve. Being able to read your horse is vital for the third piece of the puzzle: communicating effectively.
Developing your skill as a rider
To successfully combat your fear, you must also develop your skill as a rider. No matter how well you understand equine behavior, and how accurately you can read your horse’s body language, you must be able to communicate effectively, confidently, and appropriately with your horse to break the cycle of fear. Developing an independent seat, correct body position, and the appropriate use of the aids are necessary for feeling secure in the saddle and being able to give your horse the leadership he needs to feel secure as well. Though there are many books written about riding, there’s no replacement for in-person instruction. Especially for riders dealing with fear, finding the right instructor is important. Your instructor should have the right skills and qualifications for your discipline, and must also be someone you feel able to trust. Once you have found a possible instructor, either through recommendations or advertising, I suggest asking to observe a lesson. This will allow you the opportunity to see if the instructors’ approach and theory is right for you.
Just like training a horse, the process of rebuilding your own confidence is gradual and incremental. It can seem like an uphill battle at times, but a mountain does not have to be conquered in a day. Determination combined with knowledge of the mental and physical communication, as well as natural behavior and instincts of the horse will help you to finally re-experience the joy you once found in riding your horse.